Almost two years ago (I am now 38, he is 40) I met my partner through work. Even though he was married it did not stop the attraction and we had an affair. He left his wife two months into the affair and we have been together since. The problem is his wife. She has never accepted that the marriage is over, still calls him "her love" and phones at least twice a day. My partner has not helped by not starting divorce proceedings (even though we are engaged) and talks about how guilty he feels about leaving her and his four-year-old child. I feel I should make a point and say divorce or I leave, as the situation is becoming more and more intolerable.
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