Why we all need to follow Katy Perry's friendship advice

Still think Katy Perry snuck behind pal Kristen Stewart's back to date Robert Pattinson? Perry sets the rumors straight and proves that she is a really good friend.

If we believe the tabloids, all women in Hollywood are out to steal each other's boyfriends and husbands. That was the narrative that they used to describe the relationship between Katy Perry and Robert Pattinson. The pair was spotted hanging out just days after he broke off his relationship with Kristen Stewart, and rumors swirled that they were more than friends.

Spoiler alert: It didn't happen that way, according to Perry. The Smurfs 2 star wasn't breaking girl code by snagging her friend's ex. She was just trying to help another friend through a tough time. However, the rumors did prompt her to make sure Stewart knew the real details behind her friendship with Pattinson.

"I sent her a text message saying: 'I know you've seen all this stuff but you know I would never disrespect you. I'm not that person,'" Perry told Elle U.K. of how she handled the rumors. "'I'm just trying to be a friend to him but it is unfortunate that I do have a set of [breasts].'"

We love this. It's best to deal with rumors between friends by dealing with them head-on. That way, there's no drama —?and no damaged friendships. Besides, Perry has her own "broken bird" to deal with: her on-again boyfriend, John Mayer.

"He pulled away. That was a big hello for me," she told the magazine of their split earlier this year. "I realized I could lose the person I loved and I had to deal with some things, issues I think a lot of women have. You can be strong in one aspect of your life but submissive in another. In relationships, it was hard for me to speak up and set boundaries. I think that a lot of that has to do with the fear of loss."

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Paddy Considine and Nick Hemming on their long and easy friendship

The band She Talks to Angels with Nick Hemming (left) and Paddy Considine (right). Photograph: Courtesy of Paddy Considine Paddy Considine. Photograph: Getty Images

I'd been hanging out with kids at the rougher end of Winshill [in Burton upon Trent] until I met Nick at 15. He was from the other end of town, the one I considered to be full of snobs. Spending time with my mates on the estate meant getting up to mischief, so there was an appeal in hanging out with Nick and Richard, who'd introduced us. Richard's dad had recording equipment in his garage, so Nick and I would be there for hours recording adverts and dubbing them and recording our own little radio shows. We bonded over Guns N' Roses and created fake comedy/heavy metal bands inspired by Spinal Tap. It was the first time in my life I'd realised that you could do something creative and have fun without being destructive. I'd been looking for a voice, an outlet and somebody to listen to me, and my friendship with Nick and joining youth theatre were two turning points in my life that coincided.

Nick was a great influence. He was a steady, solid person – he still is. We have never had a hard time together or fallen out. He hasn't altered over time, and he lacks the neuroses I?? ?have, so our 24-year friendship has been smooth sailing.

Watching Nick develop as a musician and performer has been a pleasure, and when we work together [Nick wrote the song "We Were Wasted" for Tyrannosaur, a film Paddy wrote and directed] it's always special. When he wrote it, I'd just finished writing the film, and hearing it was a really profound moment for me: it felt like it was about us, where we grew up. There's a great joy in being able to create something with a friend you have a long history with. When? you make that creative connection, it's magic.

What Happened To The Get To Know Ya? the new album from Paddy's band Riding the Low is out now (ridingthelow.co.uk)

Nick Hemming. Photograph: Rex Features

At first I was intimidated by Paddy – he had a reputation for being a bit of a? hard nut. Turns out he wasn't a fighter at all! I'd never met anyone like him. He had such a big personality. He was funny and always doing impressions and accents – I'd hang out with Paddy all day and never hear his real voice. Everyone always knew there was something special about him. When I was 18, Paddy and I formed a ?band, She Talks to Angels (pictured above), with Shane Meadows, and we thought we were going to conquer the world. Paddy was on drums and I played guitar. It was all rubbish, but we thrived in one another's company even though we came from separate worlds. Forming that band totally changed my life. Up until then I was quite academic, but I soon started attending the art college where Paddy and Shane were studying. My parents worried a lot. From that moment, the only thing I could imagine doing was music.

Paddy's one of the only people I've kept in touch with from my teenage years. Whenever we hook up, we slip into the way things have always been – it's an easy friendship, and not high on drama. Paddy's an inspiration, really. I'm quite introspective, whereas he forges forward and tries new things. I once went to visit him while he was filming in Dublin and we spent the night getting drunk. He was angry with me for not having put out an album I'd been working on and kept saying: "Just get it out there and stop thinking about it so much!" That sums up the difference between us, but also why we are friends in the first place.

Nick's band The Leisure Society will release its new single "All I Have Seen" on 29 July through Full Time Hobby (theleisuresociety.co.uk)

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Is There Pure Friendship Existing Between Men and Women?

In fact the title of the article is just a question which is haunting in my brain for years. As we know, people do have many different kinds of emotions, and that's just the reason why we differe from the other animals. We love our families, our friends and our partner, and we know the difference of these love. But when the friendship comes to a man and woman, is there any possibility they keep a pure relationship?

Women and men are naturally mutual attracting, surely except homosexual. And in actual life, we do have many female friends and male ones. But you will only marry your Mr. Right guy in your designer wedding dress, and you will ask your close female friends as your bridesmaid as well. How about your male friends? They can only act as guests for your wedding; even you two have close friendship. Actually I doubt there is pure friendship between men and women, not always at least, since love is happened by some chemical reaction, that means it's a possibility for you and your opposite sex friends to become lovers one day. I guess that's the reason why some ambiguous feeling always exists between men and women. From this aspect, there may be no pure friendship between opposite sex friends.

A male friend of mine told me once time it's depending on the female part to decide if the friendship is a pure one or an ambiguous one. He thought men like girls unless they are too ugly. They would have sex with them if the girl allowed, but that doesn't mean they love them. And at the female's side, they will not have sex with their male friends unless she loves him secretly. The relationship will become a little complex if it refers to sex. And that's why to keep a pure friendship between male and female is a little difficult. One day, when you get married, your spouse will be also jealous for you to get close with your male or female friends.

I'm still a little confused now. Sometimes I see there is true friendship between man and women, but sometimes it changes quickly. I guess it's just because to remain a friendship between the opposite sexes is much more difficult than the same sex. But who knows, as the sex difference become smaller nowadays, maybe one day you can ask both of your male and female friends to be your bridesmaids for your wedding and dress them in their designer bridesmaid dresses.

It is really a difficult question to figure out the friendship between a man and a woman. You can only wear your gorgeous wedding dress to marry one man, but you can share your happiness and sadness with more than one of your male friends. Your female friends will be your bridesmaids wearing elegant long bridesmaid dresses , while the male friends will also attend your wedding to send their blessings to you.

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