A lot of us have grown up seeing couples in our family remaining steady and committed to each other, and forming some sort of a balance between work and their relationship. Sometimes there is no spark to keep the relationship alive, but people stick to each other out of habit, fulfilling the compartments they have created in their lives. On the other hand, extremely ambitious people, such as movie stars, sportspeople and businesspeople have relationships that seem inevitably doomed. The conclusion we naturally form is that if we are very ambitious, we cannot hope to sustain a successful relationship. However, you need to question that conclusion. Even if you are a highly ambitious person, and have set out to achieve a great deal, you can maintain a healthy relationship.
Choosing the Right Person
If you wish to balance your relationship with a very demanding career, the kind of person your partner is, is very important. If they are the kind who like to avoid the limelight, prefer a simple life with a loving and caring partner who is generally around, and have a high sex drive to top it all, you are in for serious trouble. Ideally, you need a partner who is either self-contained and ambitious like yourself or someone willing to involve themselves in your achievement. Tennis star Roger Federer and his wife are a great example of a couple who have managed to sustain a healthy relationship in the spotlight.
Prioritize Right
It may be difficult to find time away from work, but whenever you do, make sure your partner is your priority. Go out for a date or a nice dinner, spend some quiet time together or set aside a full day of fun. They need to know that they are important to you, in spite of the demands of your career, and you will not take them for granted.
Communication and Intimacy
It is imperative that you make time to talk to each other everyday, even if it is for ten minutes over phone. Healthy communication, no matter how little, is a very powerful way to keep the spark alive in a relationship. Also, whenever you are with them, keep physical intimacy a priority. By physical intimacy, I am not simply referring to sex. Any form of touch, whether it is a gentle caress, holding hands or fondling your partner, is a very powerful statement of love. Of course, if you can really spice up things in the bedroom, nothing like it!
Involving Your Partner in Your Life
Don't make the mistake of treating your career as a separate compartment of your life. Keep your partner involved in what's happening in your life. It gives out the message that they are important for you, and you value their involvement in your life. Besides, if you did not share your successes and frustrations with them, you may have very little to talk about, and your partner is never going to be able to follow the turns of your mood.
Listening to your Partner
It is natural for ambitious people to be very self-centered. However, don't be so self-involved that you lose the capacity to listen to your partner, find out about their lives and support them, when they need it. Even if they are not on their way to becoming the CEO of a global conglomerate, their life, with its challenges, questions, and ups and downs, is no less important than yours. If they get the impression that they are expected to play second fiddle to you, the spark will fade away rapidly.
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