Why is Lauren Silverman getting all the blame?

Simon Cowell betrayed his best friend, Andrew Silverman, by bedding the real estate mogul's wife. Now, she's pregnant — and getting the brunt of the blame.

Simon Cowell finally broke his silence about all the drama surrounding his love triangle — and upcoming child — with "friend" Andrew Silverman and his estranged wife, Lauren Silverman.

"There are a lot of things I will eventually clear up when the time is right, but I really have to be sensitive because there's a lot of people's feelings involved here," Cowell told People at the TCAs on Thursday.

Lauren is reportedly about three months along with Cowell's child — and sources "close" to the situation are all too willing to talk about the relationship, telling media outlets that she's a "gold digger" who schemed to get pregnant to gain fame and fortune.

"Lauren is now going around telling people that she will be in charge of all his properties around the world and has demanded a country home in the Cotswolds," a source told the Daily Mail, adding that Cowell is "horrified" at her demands. "She has also threatened not to allow him access to the child unless he marries her."

Of course, there's no mention of how Cowell's actions played a part in ruining a friendship and a marriage. All of the blame is on Lauren. It's typical — but sad — that the sexual double standard still exists.

That's not to say she shouldn't own up to her role in the situation, though. We asked Dr. Deborah Hecker,?psychotherapist and divorce expert, to explain how Lauren and Cowell can accept responsibility for their mistakes and start the healing process.

"It is important for someone who has betrayed another to understand the psychological significance of these acts of betrayal on the recipients," Dr. Hecker says. "The impact of this type of trauma can range from anger and damaged self-esteem to shock. Not infrequently, it produces life-altering changes."

Dr. Hecker adds, "If Lauren Silverman or a woman in her shoes sought my help to disentangle the very complex situation she is in, I would begin by educating her to the most striking theme in the drama — that of loss.

"In this particular triangle, the losses are substantial; the loss of a marriage, the loss of friendship and the loss of trust. Whenever there are attachments and human bonds that are broken, through separation, divorce, or betrayal, there will inevitably be grief. In the case of divorce, that grief can last for years. In the case of betrayal, the trauma can last a lifetime."

Let's just hope they can all get past their differences to focus on the most important thing in this situation: the baby.

Is it fair that Lauren Silverman is getting so much blame?

Sound off below!

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Why it's OK to love your husband more than your kids

One of the best things you can do for your children is to love your spouse. Learn exactly what putting your marriage first means and the benefits it has on your children.

The New York Times bestselling author Ayelet Waldman wrote a popular essay for the publication titled Truly, Madly, Guiltily on this very subject — loving your husband more than your kids.

Keep in mind that this does not by any means mean neglecting your children — it simply means showing your kids what a good marriage looks like. This allows them to set the bar high in their own marriages and develop healthy views of marriage. Today, we're speaking with Ayelet plus providing tips on ways to show your husband some extra love!

"Security and confidence in their family gives [kids] that much less to worry about in a complicated world."

Ayelet: Well, for one, we'll be celebrating our 20th anniversary in a couple of months. I realized longevity in and of itself is no virtue in a marriage — there are long-married couples who would have been far better off divorcing — but Michael and I have a very solid, very happy marriage. We are still in love with each other, still passionate. To maintain that level of intensity for years is a function of both luck (that we happen to have found one another) and effort. We work very hard at our relationship and try always to remember that we are on the same team.

Ayelet: First and foremost, physical affection is important in my marriage, both casual (a kiss as you pass by, an arm casually slung around the neck) and sexual. Sexual intimacy is a shortcut to emotional intimacy, or at least it is for us. It's also fun. We also try to remember not to take each other for granted, to show appreciation. If Michael spends hours on a huge dinner, I make sure to thank him and tell him how delicious it was. Goes without saying, one would think, but when six people are sitting at the table, gobbling dinner, thanks can fall by the wayside. We always remember to have one another's backs, to be loyal to each other, to defend one another. And finally, though this might sound silly, it's a symbol of something much more important — we never roll our eyes. Disdain is a marriage-killer. Don't express it, try not to feel it.

Ayelet: I believe (though I can't know this for sure?— only time will tell) that our connection is ultimately positive for our children. They feel secure in the notion both that they are loved (and they are) and that their family will remain intact. If nothing else, this security and confidence in their family gives them that much less to worry about in a complicated world.

Remember, putting your marriage first doesn't mean your kids aren't loved. Like Ayelet states, having a stable marriage gives your kids comfort and security, which for them is a huge form of love. Not only that, but when your kids leave home, you're going to be left with just your husband again. It's worth it to nurture this relationship daily so you don't grow apart and feel like you're living with a stranger. Little ways you can show him love daily include:

Leaving a love note in his lunchAsking him about his dayMaking plans together — walks, dinners out, vacations, etc.Cooking his favorite mealAsking him how you can help him

It's simple, really, but a little love goes a long way. Now go greet your husband with a kiss when he walks through that door tonight!

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How to Draw in Gentlemen at a Club or Bar?

You are sitting down at the bar and you place an individual you assume is suited for your style. What do you do? For some females attract gentlemen at a club or bar may be tough. Generally, they are shy and do not have a lot expertise, so they do not know what to do in circumstances like this. If you have a difficulty with attaining a male in a bar or club, read through on to locate out how you can fulfill the human being of your dreams.

Below are some tips on how to entice men to the club or bar.

Begin at residence. What you use is very important if you want to entice a male at a club or bar. Make positive to wear fashionable outfits. Do not go for clothes that are also strange and over the prime. It is really finest to increase a very little little bit of persona with the most current developments. This way you can glow by means of what you don. They also are likely to don outfits that you really feel excellent in. Do not go for pure attractiveness, as if you are not satisfied with what you use, you will not glance great. Also don't forget that outfits that reveals too is untrue.

Do not go overboard with make up. In accordance to the study, most gentlemen like the search uncomplicated when it arrives to make up. Nevertheless, you really should also contemplate how you are likely to a area with gentle intensity. It is ideal to concentration on the capabilities of your animals, and go easy on the rest of the confront. If you have fantastic eyes, making an attempt to concentrate on them to put on eyeliner, mascara and some eyeshadow. Straightforward to go with the relaxation of the face by donning a neutral color on the lips and cheeks. Luscious lips can be complemented with lipstick and lip gloss some Just bear in mind that your deal with need to not be caked with make up following you have completed working with.

Discover how to be a excellent dialogue. It is not just about looks What comes out of your mouth. You ought to know how to maintain the conversation likely. Wanting good does not have to be a gentleman to be captivated to you.

Do not concentration on it, be confident in your self and not have to believe about the situation. The greatest way to bring in a male is to have entertaining. You are at a bar or club to have fun, to meet what you must do! Do not sit around and wait for guys to be attracted to you, that should arrive in a natural way. Consider to go out with your buddies, this will place you in your normal component so that you come to feel much more comfortable and comfortable.

Seeking good is not always a sure way to appeal to men. You need to have a character to go with it. Be self-confident in by yourself and do not sweat it. If you do not truly feel very good on the inside, you will not appear excellent on the exterior. Start off with yourself, and people will observe far more. Adhere to these ideas and they will check with you for your range in no time.

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My Diary - Nothing But Memories Remains Forever

Dear Diary,

This morning as I opened my eyes, I looked upon an unfamiliar ceiling. Then I remembered I was in my new home - my matrimonial home and this was my first morning there. It was a strange feeling, full of excitement and nervousness. The matrimonial chapter of my life - being married - began with lying in bed for a few minutes more, thinking of all sorts of things. The top ten questions that rushed through my mind at the time (although I don't remember the sequence):

Hey! When did the colour of my ceiling change to a white from shell pink? (Kind of like Hey! Who moved my cheese?)Is my matrimonial home really painted lavender on the exterior or was it just a play of shadows in the night?What will happen if I squint when relatives lift my ghoonghat for the first time to see the new bride?What if I trip over my stilettos when I get up to greet everyone?What if I confuse my tai-saas and her daughter, whom I have to wish differently since one is older and the other younger than I am but who look more like sisters than mother-daughter?I need my morning tea and everyone's asleep - is the kitchen to the right or the left of the lobby? Wait a minute; is it on the top or the lower floor?Is that how the man of my dreams looks when he's asleep?Should I wear the kundan set instead of the gold one for the reception? Masiji's sister's daughter-in-law was wearing one just like my gold set yesterday.OMG! Did I remember to put my right foot first when I entered the house last night, as maa had told me, or was it my left foot?Maa! I miss you - can I fly back to you?

As I stared at my matrimonial life ahead, the true import of nuptial, conjugal, married began to sink in. I didn't know what to think. Yes I knew... one more question popped into my mind as I smelt the paranthas frying somewhere outside. I was starving - could I wolf down my breakfast as I usually do or should I peck daintily like a bird for the first few days?

Bye diary for now.

The most special bride in the world.

Nupur Roy is an enthusiastic writer and blogger, she has so many stories related to arranged marriage . In above post she is sharing the best memories of matrimonial life Rate this Article

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Have I fractured my husband's penis by sitting on it?

Peyronie's disease can have a devastating effect on couples. Photograph: Fuse/Getty Images/Fuse

My husband has been diagnosed with Peyronie's disease. Searching online I learned the alarming symptoms – an increasingly curved penis, possibly requiring surgery. After 14 years of great lovemaking, an erection causes him immense pain and has terminated our sex life. His doctor told him to stop attempting sex while he massages in prescribed cream, but that doesn't seem to be working. I'm frustrated and worried. The doctor even implied it might have been my fault – possibly fracturing my husband's penis by sitting on it too roughly. What can we do?

Unfortunately, the treatment of Peyronie's disease can be long-term, with a fairly slow recovery. Support your husband throughout. Try to maintain a hopeful, positive attitude, and encourage him to follow his doctor's orders to correct the buildup of plaque and/or scar tissue in a penile artery that's causing erectile pain. Penises do sometimes get damaged when an unwitting, on-top partner hasn't realised the other's erection has been partially lost, but try not to blame yourself – there are other possible ways this condition might have developed. For now, it's important to maintain your intimate connection in non-sexual ways. Partners tend to withdraw physically, because they're afraid to do anything that might arouse their men and cause further pain. Try another activity which provides the opportunity to be close, intimate and romantic.

‧ Pamela Stephenson Connolly is a psychotherapist who specialises in treating sexual disorders

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A <em>Fifty Shades of Grey</em> lingerie line? It's happening!

A British company has developed a lingerie line inspired by Fifty Shades of Grey.

We're still — still! —?waiting to find out who will play Christian Grey and Ana Steele in the big-screen adaptation of the Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy. At this rate, it might be 2020 before we see the films, but a new line by British lingerie company BlueBella will give you the opportunity to act out your own version in the privacy of your bedroom.

BlueBella teamed with author E.L. James to create a collection of bras, panties with detachable silk ties, babydoll sets and sheer underwear. The pieces are all emblazoned with memorable lines from the books, including the oft-repeated "Oh, my!" and "Laters, baby!"

The line will be officially introduced at the Moda Lingerie & Swimwear Show later this summer, with an official launch date shortly afterward. The pieces will range from about $20 to $60, according to BlueBella CEO Emily Bendell.

"As we await the release of the Fifty Shades of Grey film, and a new wave of excitement surrounding the erotic phenomenon reaches fever pitch, we are thrilled to be developing the lingerie and underwear collections that will coincide with both the run-up to and launch of the film," she told the U.K. Daily Mail.

"The 'Fifty Shades effect' has benefited our business and the books have played a significant role in shifting perceptions of female sensuality."

Even better news? A second collection is already planned to coincide with the first film's release in the summer of 2014.

The one thing the line won't include (at least not yet) is an official pair of handcuffs. That's OK, though?— people seem to be quite capable of locating a pair on their own.

The London Fire Brigade reports that, since 2010, U.K. authorities have responded to 1,300 calls involving people with their body parts stuck in various household items, including handcuffs.

"I don't know whether it's the Fifty Shades effect, but the number of incidents involving items like handcuffs seems to have gone up," Third Officer Dave Brown said in a press release. "I'm sure most people will be Fifty Shades of red by the time our crews arrive to free them."

We'll just stick with the lingerie!

Will you buy Fifty Shades of Grey lingerie? Sound off below!

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Why we all need to follow Katy Perry's friendship advice

Still think Katy Perry snuck behind pal Kristen Stewart's back to date Robert Pattinson? Perry sets the rumors straight and proves that she is a really good friend.

If we believe the tabloids, all women in Hollywood are out to steal each other's boyfriends and husbands. That was the narrative that they used to describe the relationship between Katy Perry and Robert Pattinson. The pair was spotted hanging out just days after he broke off his relationship with Kristen Stewart, and rumors swirled that they were more than friends.

Spoiler alert: It didn't happen that way, according to Perry. The Smurfs 2 star wasn't breaking girl code by snagging her friend's ex. She was just trying to help another friend through a tough time. However, the rumors did prompt her to make sure Stewart knew the real details behind her friendship with Pattinson.

"I sent her a text message saying: 'I know you've seen all this stuff but you know I would never disrespect you. I'm not that person,'" Perry told Elle U.K. of how she handled the rumors. "'I'm just trying to be a friend to him but it is unfortunate that I do have a set of [breasts].'"

We love this. It's best to deal with rumors between friends by dealing with them head-on. That way, there's no drama —?and no damaged friendships. Besides, Perry has her own "broken bird" to deal with: her on-again boyfriend, John Mayer.

"He pulled away. That was a big hello for me," she told the magazine of their split earlier this year. "I realized I could lose the person I loved and I had to deal with some things, issues I think a lot of women have. You can be strong in one aspect of your life but submissive in another. In relationships, it was hard for me to speak up and set boundaries. I think that a lot of that has to do with the fear of loss."

Do you appreciate Katy Perry's approach to the Robert Pattinson dating rumors? Sound off below!

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